Friday, March 20, 2015

Little Children

Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.[1]

Let the little children come to me, and do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of heaven belongs.”[2]

Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.”[3]


Understanding children begins with a child's sense of awe and wonder, and feelings of joy.
Curiosity and wonder, so evident in the enthusiasms of young children and so much a part of their charm, are expressions of the basic human emotion of interest. Many of us may not, at first, think of interest as an emotion. Psychologists and neuroscientists, however, now regard interest as a fundamental emotion—an emotion that motivates and guides our engagement in the world.
‘…question-asking is not something that children do every now and then—asking questions is a central part of what it means to be a child’”[4] 

Children are vulnerable. Vulnerability is their age-appropriate trait. They need adults to protect them and to care for them. Remember Dostoevsky: all knowledge of the world is not worth a tear of one child.”[5]
(…the whole world of knowledge is not worth that child’s prayer to dear, kind God’! – Ivan to Alyosha, Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov, Chapter 4)

As we grow into adulthood, it seems that most of us lose our childishness-we become more mature, and more in control of our emotions-, but unfortunately, we also lose much of our childlikeness as well-we are less capable of being spontaneous, unselfconscious and joyful. In other words, we lose the good with the bad.
As many psychologists have noted, humans are unique in their ability to imagine things that are not in our immediate environment.
The ability to imagine is fundamental in two other ways as well. First, it helps us plan for the future-without the ability to plan, we would be prisoners of the present, and hence, wouldn't be nearly as powerful a species. Second, it helps us empathize with others; it helps us feel what others in a vastly different situation feel. For example, even if we have never lost a limb, or been imprisoned, we can imagine how it would feel to be in those circumstances.
We, unlike children, are almost never 100% present in the moment.
What it takes to be a child again is to understand the sources of fragmentation, and then overcome them. For most of us, what fragments us is our desire to maintain high self-worth-through our looks, achievements, fame, power, money, etc. As we grow older, we worry increasingly about our deteriorating looks. We yearn for our youthful looks even as we recognize that we are, at the present moment, the most youthful we will ever be for the rest of our lives. And most of us also worry about our achievements, fame, etc., and how they compare to that of others. These worries erode into our self-worth and that makes us feel sad, inadequate and depressed. These emotions, in turn, cause us to worry even more about issues related to looks, achievements, and the other "extrinsic" sources of self-worth. Being caught up in this vicious cycle is the primary cause for fragmentation.
…becoming childlike really takes a variety of abilities: awareness of why we lose our childlikeness, courage to challenge society's views about what's worthy of pursuit, and, finally, intelligence to figure out an alternative set of rules by which to live. In short, it isn't child's play to be childlike; in fact, it takes great maturity to be childlike.”[6]

Adults develop habits that narrow the range of what they think is possible. Do something spontaneous, preferably every day.
Grownups treat errands as problems to be solved in a logical manner. Appreciate tasks as opportunities for exploration, not boring duties.
Being present and living in the moment gives you the opportunity to appreciate fun when it occurs.
Free time is free time. Don't fill every moment with chores.”[7]

Who said you had to grow up and be so serious? Cultivate the very best of the child within you. Practice childlike awe for majestic things, childlike silliness (my husband loves silly cat videos on YouTube, for example), childlike faith, childlike hope, childlike play and creativity. When it comes to certain things, children do them way better than we do. Recapture it - it's still inside you.”[8]

Did Jesus reflect on the innocence of children, their positive attitudes or willingness to forgive? Was he teaching humility, dependence on God, or absence of guile? All of these, as well as attributes listed by psychologists. It is interesting that the characteristics observed in being childlike are those which provide a more balanced and peaceful life, as well as being essential for acceptance into the kingdom of God.

Childlikeness and childishness are different and often opposite. Taking advantage of a child’s gullibility may result in a humorous situation, but taking advantage of a child’s vulnerability is criminal and immoral. Raj Raghunathan suggests that the adult’s “desire to maintain high self-worth-through our looks, achievements, fame, power, money, etc.”, is what destroys childlikeness; it is the drive to things ourselves that also bars us from entering God’s kingdom. One of the attitudes of childlikeness that Jesus may have wanted adults to recognize could have been their vulnerability. Every child wants to feel useful and helpful, they desire approval for their involvement in jobs done by parents, but they need support, comfort and help from parents just to live from day to day. Religious rituals and activities for adults should carry no more value than a child’s helping a parent carry a heavy load. Whatever people do by way of religious duty, it should not be thought of as deserving compensation from God. The child wants to contribute by helping, but a child realizes he or she cannot manage the task without the parent. The child accepts love and support from parents without question. Adults need to be childlike, accepting God’s love and forgiveness; a person’s worth should come from God’s acceptance and grace in forgiveness rather than through personal or monetary achievements. Naivety, energy, enthusiasm, and imagination are childlike characteristics adults can also work to recapture.

The Bing thesaurus offers synonyms for childlike: innocent, pure, naïve, candid, uncomplicated, unsophisticated, trusting, simple, childish, and ingenuous. The antonym given is jaded, the definition of which adds to understanding childlikeness -no longer enthusiastic or excited about things, especially because you have been disappointed by your many experiences of them. The characteristics of being childlike which Jesus said were required for entry into the kingdom of God were not identified and therefore it was left to the disciples to interpret Jesus’ meaning. We don’t know if they understood or achieved Jesus’ requirement.

Atheists scorn faith in God and at the same time deny vehemently and stubbornly that their denial of God is belief-based. This situation is a vivid example of what Jesus might have intended his disciples to recognize. Faith allowed the psalmist to write, “The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Day after day they pour forth speech; night after night they reveal knowledge. They have no speech, they use no words; no sound is heard from them. Yet their voice goes out into all the earth, their words to the ends of the world. In the heavens God has pitched a tent for the sun. It is like a bridegroom coming out of his chamber, like a champion rejoicing to run his course. It rises at one end of the heavens and makes its circuit to the other; nothing is deprived of its warmth. The law of the LORD is perfect, refreshing the soul. The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple.”[9] The sophistication of the atheist asserts his position to be one of knowledge. The Christian believes God exists, and interprets natural evidence as support for faith. The atheist claims he knows that there is no God, and assumes natural evidence supports the theory of evolution. The knowledge that God doesn’t exist rests on empirical proof, but the atheist does not have proof, he has only evidence that can be interpreted differently according one’s belief. To know that God doesn’t exist, is to know everything, and to have been everywhere, or else it is not knowledge, it is belief.

The Agnostic believes that it is not possible to know whether God exists or not. As long as the word “know” is used in its absolute sense, not “scientific consensus” which is an escape from reality clause among scientists, then I would agree. It is not possible through natural means to prove the existence of God. Likewise, it is not possible through natural means to disprove the existence of God. For Christian, Atheist or Agnostic, any concept outside the boundary of objective science is opinion or hypothesis. Believing something doesn’t make it true, it expresses a personal conviction which may or may not be scientific, but would have to be subjected to testability and reproducibility. The God-believer holds to what scripture says about faith, “By faith we understand that the worlds were prepared by the word of God, so that what is seen was made from things that are not visible.”[10] As a believer I cannot present my faith as a scientifically objective truth, unless it passes the litmus of testability and reproducibility. This may be the time to heed Jesus’s recommendation of adopting childlikeness; our concept of God and creation are faith based. The natural evidence support our belief because we believe. The natural evidence proves the Atheist or Agnostic position because of their beliefs. To a believer the scriptures are God’s word; to non-believers the scriptures are very ancient outmoded folklore. The message of God is better seen in loving behaviour than in loudness of words. The strongest evidence for the existence of God is the reflection of his love and grace through believers. It seems to me that to be childlike means to accept that God created all things; to some that would suggest naivety and simplicity, and I would agree. I would also point out that Jesus said that naivety and simplicity are needed to enter his kingdom.

For the message about the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. For it is written, ‘I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and the discernment of the discerning I will thwart.’ Where is the one who is wise? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? For since, in the wisdom of God, the world did not know God through wisdom, God decided, through the foolishness of our proclamation, to save those who believe. For Jews demand signs and Greeks desire wisdom, but we proclaim Christ crucified, a stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles, but to those who are the called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.”[11]

I was pondering the dialogue of Eve and the Serpent; Adam and Eve lived in a garden paradise, one might say that they had everything anyone could ever need. “…the LORD God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food…”[12] Adam and Eve lived in childlike innocence, Satan however, took advantage of Eve’s naivety instilling in her mind a sense of lack. “Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, ‘Indeed, has God said, ‘you shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?’ The woman said to the serpent, ‘From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, 'You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.’ The serpent said to the woman, ‘You surely will not die! For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.’ When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate.” Generally children live in the present, and as long as they have their basic needs looked after, they do not crave something simply because someone else has it. That is a craving that accompanies “growing up”, the desire to have what other people have because they have it. It’s connected to status of ownership and little children do not dwell on that issue. The apostle Paul suggests a more mature approach, “… I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”[13]

 
  



[1] Luke 18:17
[2] Mat 19:14
[3] Mar 10:15
[4] "Joyousness and wonder are the characteristic emotions of childhood."
Post published by Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on Nov 04, 2013 in Pride and Joy
[5] Being a Child in the Time of Tragedy and Television.
Post published by Elena Bezzubova on Mar 05, 2013 in The Search for Self
[6] What does it take to become childlike again? Post published by Raj Raghunathan Ph.D. on Jul 12, 2011 in Sapient Nature
[7] Michael Robinson of NDSU - Child's play can inspire you. By Laura Janecka, published on July 1, 2010 - last reviewed on June 14, 2011
[8] Top tips to help you stay healthy, feel happy, and fulfill your potential. Post published by Susan Biali M.D. on Oct 23, 2013 in Prescriptions for Life
[9] Psa 19:1-7
[10] Heb 11:3
[11] 1Co 1:18-24
[12] Gen 2:9
[13] Php 4:11-13





[1] Gen 2:9
[2] Php 4:11-13


[12] Gen 2:9
[13] Php 4:11-13
  





[1] Luke 18:17
[2] Mat 19:14
[3] Mar 10:15
[4] "Joyousness and wonder are the characteristic emotions of childhood."
Post published by Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on Nov 04, 2013 in Pride and Joy
[5] Being a Child in the Time of Tragedy and Television.
Post published by Elena Bezzubova on Mar 05, 2013 in The Search for Self
[6] What does it take to become childlike again? Post published by Raj Raghunathan Ph.D. on Jul 12, 2011 in Sapient Nature
[7] Michael Robinson of NDSU - Child's play can inspire you. By Laura Janecka, published on July 1, 2010 - last reviewed on June 14, 2011
[8] Top tips to help you stay healthy, feel happy, and fulfill your potential. Post published by Susan Biali M.D. on Oct 23, 2013 in Prescriptions for Life
[9] Psa 19:1-7
[10] Heb 11:3
[11] 1Co 1:18-24

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